HOW TO: Instantly let someone feels they knew you for a long time.

after a little talk, you could leave shortly but less distantly in order to create an acquaintance-to-an-old-friend come back as you approach them again.”

As you are a reader here, surely you already know one of the fundamentals of a sales appointment, “Establish trust first and befriend the prospect”. Usual sales people do it in a long method but Closers do it instantly smooth. Here are some.

1. Monologue with your name. People are codified with names. When you know someone by name alone, you could say the least that you know something very distinct to that person even without seeing his face or knowing his stories. You just simply know him more than just a stranger because of the name.

Your goal is to let them hear your name as much as you can during your warm up conversation. And you let them hear it by relaying past conversations with previous prospects that make them feel they had a talked with you before. I mean,

when you have been promoting same offer over the years, you are able to tally a generic set of objections and concerns expressed by your prospects.”

By, inserting previous talks on same points that they will be raising, or those which remain unsaid in their brains, while using your name, you’re able to let them feel that you have already talked before with them on that same concern and feels like you’ve known each other even before the first meeting. This also gives them an impression that you are empathetic and compassionate on the things they are thinking.

2. Treat them like the way you treated their counterparts in your life. Simple. If they are on the age of your grandmother, tell them that you remember your grandmother as you meet her and be consistent on how you really treat them just exactly how you treated their counterpart. This even gives you the idea how to tailor your offer specific to the prospects desires as you yourself more or less knows the desire of the prospect’s counterpart in your life.

3. Leave. Then, be back like an old friend. Once you have introduce yourself and your role for that meeting,

after a little talk, you could leave shortly but less distantly in order to create an acquaintance-to-an-old-friend come back as you approach them again.”

You might offer them a drink and get it for them as you also get yours. Then as you go back, treat them as someone you have already known before. They would also treat you the same. This is also helpful whenever your first approach was a bluff. You could breathe and strategize again.

4. When they recognize you as one like they know because of a specific gesture, Act it. Frequently.“You laugh like my close friend from high school” thus, laugh more often during your warm up and laugh, whenever there’s worth laughing throughout the meeting.

You could even repeat the specific gesture again whenever you have a bit of disagreement as you go along the pitch. This reminds them and hence, neutralizes the situation that they are talking with someone they have identified as a memorable pal, not a promising enemy.”

5. Tell them a previous chapter of your life that explains a specific attribute you distinctly posses as you pitch. This is actually a trick in order to justify a you-only-trait but at the same time letting them know you deeper than any just-now-met person. When i do my pitch, i usually sound like a legislative man. Thus, I tell them early in our talk that on my high school and college years I have been participating in debate championships.

That way, they feel like they’ve known me since that chapter of my life as I naturally manifest it during the whole course of our communication. Seeming like they are in front, talking with an old friend.”

Molding friendship and trust with your prospect is a process. Whether through a long or short method, It is a process. It is a “pre-pitch” requirement. Those listed never aimed to compromise the quality of your befriending talk. It makes the prospect instantly feels they knew you longtime ago, but it may not instantly work for you. It needs to be practiced, polished. Remember those. Apply. Evaluate.

How an Expert Starts to have Fun Learning Again

Some fun educative sorts of ways to spice up the predictable corporate routine.

Six months after getting the promotion, I started feeling so proficient doing the things my work required me to accomplish. Perhaps I was really extraordinary at my previous work post that adjusting for the more demanding responsibilities seemed to appear so basic. Yes, I felt that too. When I listened to my mind whispering those two previous sentences, it felt so absurd. I knew there was something wrong. There was something to be done. There was something to be learned. That my mind was such a swindler tricking me that I was just a vowel away to be omniscient.

It took about two months after I came back to the rationality that maybe what I was feeling was exactly a sign that I have to look for something new to challenge my competitive soul. I surely knew it was not enrolling in a post graduate school, just some fun educative sorts of ways to spice up the predictable corporate routine.

If you ever feel the same, these might be things worth to try :

JOIN CLASSES AT CO-WORKING SPACES

These are talks done at exclusive meeting rooms in cafes or at co-working spaces. Follow the Facebook page of coffee shops around your place. They post announcements about 2-hour classes as they collaborate with people who conduct speaking events on a topic you might be interested in. These are usually filtered up to 15 attendees which the first meeting is usually free. Have fun learning and creating connections as well. Your seatmate can be a new found friend or a business partner material. Indulge in the variety of personalities and corporate titles.

POST YOUR BOOK REVIEW ONLINE

Reading books is a classic advice to continue learning. Enjoy every chapter by sharing your impression online. You can ignite sensible discussions among fellow readers through digitized book review forum on social media platforms like Reddit. You can also simply create a group chat with friends and discuss about the book you all have read. It is online and it is exciting!

DATE A HUMAN LIBRARY

Look for a friend or an acquaintance who is knowledgeable about a topic you want to know. Treat him to a coffee or a meal.  You can write notes, ask for a demonstration or just simply interact like a casual conversation. You can agree to schedule it weekly until you are well-informed about the matter and for as long as you both still enjoy the meet up (of course). The intimacy of talking to someone face to face makes this fun and more informative, and affective. Try this on your next off-day and be sure to sponsor the bill every time.

In hindsight, losing the challenge of doing your work from the belief that you are already an “expert” consistently hitting your target, is still categorically a symptom of being burnt out. Yes, you can be burnt out and still sharply hit the work requirements. Intrinsically fed up and still occupationally productive.

Do not look for a new job. Just look for something new. Something that is fun yet educative. You have an endless array of choices: Refresh the basics of your profession, learn a side topic of your industry, update yourself on the latest trends of the market or unlock your potentials on a whole new rewarding field. Truly, there are a lot of knowledge and skills this world has for us to be learnt. Most of these are fun and do not necessarily have to be costly. You are not an expert.